In the lead up to Mother’s Day, we wanted to get to know some of the awesome mums who work at our centre. We asked 14 mums to share their stories with us & now we’ll be sharing them with you.
We caught up with Wanita from Jeanswest, who is a mum of seven.
What’s the best gift you’ve received for Mother’s Day? :
They gave me a big photo of them, each one of them was holding a sign that spelt out “We love & appreciate you mum”. It’s up on my wall at home.
What has surprised you about being a mum? :
I think as my kids have grown now, when (they were) growing up it was about nurturing them but the teenage life with the attitudes & things like that gave me a big wake up call. I brought up my brothers & sisters as well but that was totally different to (having) your own & having to put boundaries. You know they need it & you want them to learn the right way. The whole attitude of ‘I want, I want’ is crazy. I think that was my biggest (surprise), transitioning into the teenage life & still letting go a little bit, giving them their freedom. I’m still learning that but it’s a good challenge & you know, life is challenging. I want my children to know (that) & to not be afraid to take on those challenges. Because when I’m not here, I want them to be ok.
Best piece of mothering advice you’ve been given? :
To always be there for your children. Always make sure that they have more than you ever did. Making sure that you’re available whenever they need you & allow them to have a freedom to speak. Nowadays there’s so much that goes on & to have your child bottle up & not be able to confide in you is the hardest. I’m always open to my children & that’s just because I’ve allowed them to have their freedom of speech, to an extent. Respect is the utmost, just allowing them to understand what we go through in life. It’s just learning curves everyday but taking on the challenges is the best thing.
What is you biggest hope for your kids?:
For them to be successful in whatever they want to be, regardless of (whether it’s) being a labourer to a lawyer I will be proud of whatever they choose to do. I think my biggest (hope) is to makes sure that they’re always close, to love each other. When I’m gone I would want to make sure that they’re all close & to look after each other & know that they’ve always got each other to lean on.
Who’s a mum that you admire? :
My beautiful mum. When I was young, it was really hard for them. I’m the eldest of 5. Mum worked multiple jobs & always provided for us. She always made sure that we had a roof over our head, we had food in our tummies, we had warm clothes. I’m proud of my mum because I learnt a lot & now being a mum myself I thank her every day for what she’s taught me. I appreciate her a lot more than I did when I was younger. You know, I was just a little ratbag back in those days & I never ever told her that I loved her. But once I started having my children, I started realising that you only have one mum & we need to treasure her & love her for the rest of her life until that time comes . She’ll always be number one to me.